- DO be punctual. Lateness leads to conflict between parents and may spoil the visit for the child.
- DO establish a pattern for contact visits as soon as possible.
- DO, where time and space permits, spend time simply being with your children. As an absent parent, this will help your relationship with your children more than organised activities.
- DO recognise that, as children get older, they have friendships, school activities, hobbies etc. and contact arrangements need to take these into account.
- DO deal frankly, but sympathetically, with the issue of new partners – both with your former partner and with the children.
- DON’T question the children about your ex-partners personal life.
- DON’T use the children to get at your ex-partner (for instance by denying contact because of your own anger)
- DON’T blame every physical ailment on the last contact visit.
- DON’T encourage the children to take sides – it is you who are getting divorced, not the children.
If you can follow these guidelines then contact visits will be a positive and enriching experience for the children that will assist their development into adulthood and their sense of personal wellbeing.
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